Should I be concerned with these thoughts?

Ruby88 — Wed Mar 10, 2010 3:52 pm

Author: Ruby88

Posted: Wed Mar 10, 2010 3:52 pm

[quote="Wiganlad2010"]Im 20. [/quote]

Oh my God, that's freaky. You're exactly the same age as I was when I was doing that! I was in my last year at college and both my house mates had finished their course and moved on, and we were waiting to get someone else in, so I had this 3 bedroom house to myself. I put all the single beds together and just sort of had this room of bed. I remember distinctly just lying in this enormous bed with the curtains shut and wondering why it was 2pm and I still couldn't get up.

You'll be fine, don't worry.

I think i am not mentally fit

Ruby88 — Wed Mar 10, 2010 3:47 pm

Author: Ruby88

Posted: Wed Mar 10, 2010 3:47 pm

Hi swap,

You've got 3 identical threads here - I'm guessing it didn't look as though they were posting. It can do that sometimes.

First off, kids are cruel, even teenage ones. There are probably many many of us on here who have been bullied or made fun of at school and into college. It does get better as you get older - as people grow up they get more secure in themselves, so they have less of a tendency to try to big themselves up by bringing other people down.

First of all, slow down. You sound as though you're rushing all of these feelings out. This ties in a bit with how you've heard that people say you don't think before talking. What happens if you think about what you're about to say or write before you speak/ type? Do you find it difficult?
It's a skill that a lot of us have to learn - slowing down, thinking about what to communicate and how to communicate it. I almost always type and re-type my messages on this board a few times. I'll add a bit here and delete a bit there.

Question about other people's feelings for you. Do you find it easy or hard to know when other people are upset or angry, or do you find it hard to read people's emotions?

When you reply to this, first think about what you want to say. Type something up and then read it back. Imagine you're someone else reading it. Could it be clearer? Have you repeated anything? Is there anything that seems to be in the wrong order? Is there anything else that you wanted to say? Change it if it needs changing and read it back again. When you're happy with it, hit Submit.

Looking forward to hearing from you.

Can You Fall in Love in a Dream

cr8trface — Wed Mar 10, 2010 3:33 pm

Author: cr8trface

Posted: Wed Mar 10, 2010 3:33 pm

quote:
Originally posted by AndroidsDream
This is just a survey for responses for a project I am doing that is examining the theories of dreams.

You don't have to be right or wrong. Just tell me what you think. Your own opinion. Can you fall in Love in a Dream?

I feel like I have, but I forgot the details

Mini Survey (what's your "type"?)

jargan — Wed Mar 10, 2010 3:31 pm

Author: jargan

Posted: Wed Mar 10, 2010 3:31 pm

@djockhere:
>> But the way you expressed your views really made me lose a bit of my confidence & start think like - 'Should I stop being like this?'. Wouldn't it have been much better if you have said something like - 'You are indeed a happy person but you can also make your life even happier by.....' sort of.

As a general rule, if you feel comfortable with something you do and it's not causing any other problems, there is no need to question yourself. Especially if someone claims you can't possibly feel fine the way you are... clearly, anyone who says that doesn't know anything.

So I suppose it's my turn to ask now: anyone else want a short characterisation?

35 (or more?) ways to beat panic

JeremyC — Wed Mar 10, 2010 3:23 pm

Author: JeremyC

Posted: Wed Mar 10, 2010 3:23 pm

I love the laughing one. It does help enormously. And apparently your brain can't tell the difference between you faking a laugh and really having a good belly laugh. Laughing in a group is the best. When I start to get anxious I try to laugh at my anxiety and quite frequently that's enough to beat it back.

Intrusive thoughts

Begee — Wed Mar 10, 2010 2:52 pm

Author: Begee

Posted: Wed Mar 10, 2010 2:52 pm

Hi IamFree, thanks a lot for your encouragement.
I guess deep down I know I wouldn't act on my thoughts..when I am anxious and scared of course they seem so real..and it is hard to convince myself that they are just thoughts. I tried to be as opened about this problem as I possibly could, so I found out that indeed many people around me had similar thoughts already in their lives..but probably because they were not anxious and with the self-image so damaged as I am, they could easily ignore them.
I think I just need to let time pass..and I know from experience that many symptoms do fade away just because we learn to stop being afraid of them..so I´m hoping for the same thing to happen with my crazy thoughts, too

Extreme Mood Swings + Self-conscious + career crisis + mba

Kat M. — Wed Mar 10, 2010 2:36 pm

Author: Kat M.

Posted: Wed Mar 10, 2010 2:36 pm

Hi, AnAgrAm,

Thanks godness, you are aware of your problems! Pay attention to them please! Don't just ignore them.

Why did you start your MBA course? Were you excited then? Was it your choice to begin with? What did you want to become?

What do you need to happen before summer break to make you want to continue with your study and simply feeling great?

Can you start volunteering at every opportunity (not at expense of your studies of course)? It is so much easier to interact with others when you have a common task to focus on. It will also leave you no time to just sit alone and 'feel the pain'....Excess introspection is a dangerous thing.

Try not to let your fears control your life. Choose to carry them with you wherever you decide to go. Just picture a nice fluffy ball of fears sitting in your pocket, squealing at you: 'stay in, it's not safe, you might be humiliated, you might fail...' You are the one with the legs and the brain....you are in charge of where you are taking them...

Hug,

Kat M.

Post realization depression

mr.mental — Wed Mar 10, 2010 2:31 pm

Author: mr.mental

Posted: Wed Mar 10, 2010 2:31 pm

Yes realizing this can be difficult. Realizing that altruism is simply a fancy theory, but not really practical. I mean everyone does something for their own gain, regardless of their intentions. Even charity is done for the gratification of those who practice it. And even priests serve god, ultimately for their own salvation.

How can you get over this "post realization depression", as you call it?

Acceptance. That is your first step. It is your task to accept that life works in cycles. There is always one person with an advantage, and another person at the other end of the spectrum, who will suffer disadvantage. With every decision that is made - there is benefit or loss.

Is it wrong that helpless buffalo are preyed upon by lions? Is that selfish? No. It is not wrong, it is simply apart of nature. As humans, there will always be those who have something more. They tried to address this issue in Marx socialism. Where everyone would be equal.

But it was realized no one could ever be truly equal. There would always be something to envy. Sure one man might be filthy rich, but maybe that same man is in a relationship he hates and loathes everyday. Whereas there might be a poor man on the other side of the world, who loves his life every day, just because he loves his relationship so much.

So essentially, we are all selfish. Everything we have or do, will in some way, or in some form down the track, pose disadvantage to someone, whilst gaining advantage for ourselves. And of course it works vice versa. It is natural to be selfish in this way, but that doesn't mean we can't spend time making sure that we create as much advantage for people as we can, even if that benefits us emotionally or physically, in some way as well.

Here is some interesting reading, related to this area - have a look at:

Social exchange theory
Cost/benefit analysis
Marxism
Karl Marx and socialism (Das Kapital)
The Selfish Gene by Richard Dawkins (from an evolutionary biology perspective)

Once you accept what you cannot change, you will feel better. Although everything people do is for some personal gan, it doesn't mean we are all completely out for ourselves. We can collaborate to profit other people's interests, as much as possible. View us all as business partners if you will. And all our business is to be happy. Some win, and some lose. Not everyone can come first in life (figuratively speaking). It is logically impossible.

Problems with ALL areas of my life at the same time!

jimmymycrushie — Wed Mar 10, 2010 2:14 pm

Author: jimmymycrushie

Posted: Wed Mar 10, 2010 2:14 pm

I didn't get you request Send an email or send your email address through pm.

I think i am not mentally fit

swap — Wed Mar 10, 2010 2:08 pm

Author: swap

Posted: Wed Mar 10, 2010 2:08 pm

Everyone hates me, i am doing my graduation i am admiited to a college from 2008 since then every person including my friends in my friends circle think i am a fool and always make fun of me they hate me always. they say i bore them by talking, they say me i dont think before talking to people, they say i always ask doubts, they try to ignore me or make fun of me everytime.
Its like everytime i open my mouth something bad happens to me,even if i stay silent and dont talk to anyone then also they make fun of me like i am a joker for them
Everytime everyday i get depressed due to such things, this things happen on an daily basis to me everyday i come home depressed,obssesed of life, i feel like i want to end my life, not a single person has respect for me.
Can anyone tell me whats the problem with me? what should i do? i cant ignore all this because if everyone says it then there must be some sort of problem with me.

I think i got a problem with me

swap — Wed Mar 10, 2010 1:54 pm

Author: swap

Posted: Wed Mar 10, 2010 1:54 pm

Everyone hates me, i am doing my graduation i am admiited to a college from 2008 since then every person including my friends in my friends circle think i am a fool and always make fun of me they hate me always. they say i bore them by talking, they say me i dont think before talking to people, they say i always ask doubts, they try to ignore me or make fun of me everytime.
Its like everytime i open my mouth something bad happens to me,even if i stay silent and dont talk to anyone then also they make fun of me like i am a joker for them
Everytime everyday i get depressed due to such things, this things happen on an daily basis to me everyday i come home depressed,obssesed of life, i feel like i want to end my life, not a single person has respect for me.
Can anyone tell me whats the problem with me? what should i do? i cant ignore all this because if everyone says it then there must be some sort of problem with me.

Short question to diet guy (jurplesman)

jimmymycrushie — Wed Mar 10, 2010 1:53 pm

Author: jimmymycrushie

Posted: Wed Mar 10, 2010 1:53 pm

quote:
Originally posted by element.
I really don't understand what basis jimmymycrishie used to claim that the depression rates in the Western World are low. They have been increasing for most of the distance past.

And I agree with your attempt to explain the depression rates (in your linked post, and this thread) that depression rates MAY be because of a deterioration in the quality of diet, but I stress the word MAY.
As an econometricist, I cannot emphasise more that a multivariate analysis is needed to figure out what part of the increase in depression rates actually comes from the "unnatural diet", and from all the data I have looked at so far, the increase in depression rates may be prompting people to care less about their health and therefore eat poor diets. I'm just trying to point out that correlation does not imply causation on either way.

However, the depression statistics that you provide are for children, who have a lesser control of their diet, so it may as well be that deterioating diets are leading to higher depression rates across the Western World.

Oh my god, don't blame me for something I didn't do. I didn't ask that question, Kat did. Jurplesman made an error.

just read it please

Kat M. — Wed Mar 10, 2010 1:52 pm

Author: Kat M.

Posted: Wed Mar 10, 2010 1:52 pm

Hi Latros!

Another question:

What would happen if a couple of years from now you find out that you can no longer play your games?

What if you need a new advanced computer to handle the graphics, need an internet connection, electricity bills to pay, but can't afford it?

Right now you have your parents, right? No worries for you just yet....

By the way, you CAN play games all your life, as well as having a balanced and fulfilled life! You don't have to quit (my husband and my kids are playing games, some weeks it's an obsession, some weeks it's going quiet).

Have you thought about getting to be a part of this exciting gaming industry? I know that Game Developers events pay people to volunteer to help them (meaning you can get a free flight, a free hotel room etc....and meet lots of interesting people with a common interest).

In regards to your fears of debts, my thought is....it's better to have debts when you know that in a few years you would be able to clear them, than be in debts all your life due to your poverty.

Are you afraid to go to college for other reasons? Afraid of hard work, pressure to complete the course, don't have enough self-discipline, have social worries? If so, these are the same fears most rich kids have...

Don't give up on yourself!

Hug,

Kat M.

Stepdaughters anger

stepmom01 — Wed Mar 10, 2010 1:47 pm

Author: stepmom01

Posted: Wed Mar 10, 2010 1:47 pm

I've been married over a year now to my husband. Both our second marriage. His wife died due to alcoholism. He divorced her more than 6yrs ago and she died 2yrs ago. He has three adult children 2 girls, 1 boy ages 19,21,27. I have one daughter age 25 and a son that had passed away prior to this marriage. I get along with the son but the daughters are definately difficult. Recently we went to FL for vacation and returned with the girls staying in the house without us knowing and taking some thing that was later returned of my daughters. The girls feel that the house is theirs and they can come and go as they please. Both have their own apts. They felt as though they could take whatever they wanted it shouldn't matter!! My husband explained that they just should of asked prior to using the house out of respect. I was more than hurt and when I confronted them I was called some filthy names, I was so taken back and my husband did nothing. Now the oldest (elementary school teacher) will not let her father see his grandson, she says he's not a good role model for him. Even after 3 months shes still angry, the middle girl wants nothing to do with me. Now the son doesn't cuz he's standing by his sisters.
I'm lost....I've never been in a family where adult children were so bitter and selfish. The one that suffers most will be my husbands grandson who is 1yr.

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sunchild — Wed Mar 10, 2010 1:41 pm

Author: sunchild

Posted: Wed Mar 10, 2010 1:41 pm

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